My husband and I, married for 10 years, tried for a child for seven, but I\u2019m infertile. We grieved, or so I thought. His childhood friend, Leah (34F), always close, is now pregnant and alone, the father having left. Weeks from her due date, she asked my husband to be her birth partner and, shockingly, to be listed as the father on the birth certificate, claiming it\u2019s his only chance to be a dad. I said no\u2014this affects our marriage profoundly. He called me selfish, bitter about my infertility, and said he\u2019s already promised to be there for her delivery. Leah sent a<\/p>\n
manipulative voice message, sobbing, saying I should understand her longing for a child and let him \u201chave this.\u201d She even suggested she\u2019d later claim the baby\u2019s dad died to minimize the issue. I was furious, told her not to contact me, and warned my husband that signing the certificate means he\u2019s choosing her over our marriage. He says I\u2019m giving ultimatums, forcing him to choose between a \u201chelpless baby\u201d and a wife who \u201cresents motherhood.\u201d I don\u2019t resent motherhood\u2014I resent being sidelined while he plays father to her child. Am I wrong to feel manipulated and to fear the legal and emotional ties this creates?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
My husband and I, married for 10 years, tried for a child for seven, but I\u2019m infertile. We grieved, or so I thought. His childhood friend, Leah (34F), always close, is now pregnant and alone, the father having left. Weeks from her due date, she asked my husband to be her birth partner and, shockingly, …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":648,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-647","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/647","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=647"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/647\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":649,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/647\/revisions\/649"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/648"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=647"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=647"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/storypulls.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=647"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}