# My Wife and Her Parents Secretly Planned a Religious Ceremony for Our Daughter — Now I Don’t Trust Them Alone With Her
My wife, Natalie, and I have been married for five years. We have a two-year-old daughter, Lily, who means everything to us.
Last month, we planned a quiet anniversary weekend at a cabin by the lake. Natalie suggested leaving Lily with her parents, Greg and Helen.
I hesitated.
Her parents had never really accepted me, mainly because of our religious differences. I grew up Lutheran, while they held much stricter beliefs.
Still, they’d watched Lily before, so I agreed.
The weekend was wonderful. For once, Natalie and I enjoyed time together without worrying about work or parenting.
But when we returned, something felt wrong.
Helen seemed unusually cheerful, and Natalie kept avoiding my questions about their weekend.
Then I discovered that a religious ceremony had been secretly arranged for Lily without my knowledge or consent.
I couldn’t believe it.
I wasn’t upset about religion itself. I was furious that decisions about my daughter’s upbringing had been made behind my back.
When I confronted Natalie, I realized her parents weren’t the only people involved.
Now I’ve told them they can’t babysit Lily anymore.
Natalie thinks I’m overreacting, but I can’t understand how I’m supposed to trust people who deliberately excluded me from such an important decision.
**Am I wrong for refusing to let my in-laws watch our daughter again?**
