I’m Richard, 30, married to Melissa for three years. We agreed before marriage to remain childfree. A year in, Melissa changed her mind, wanting a baby. I didn’t, fearing resentment, so I secretly got a vasectomy, thinking it protected our original plan.
Recently, Melissa announced her pregnancy, and I was shocked, suspecting infidelity since I believed my vasectomy made it impossible. I demanded a DNA test, hurting her deeply. The results confirmed the baby is mine—my vasectomy failed. I apologized for accusing her but haven’t revealed the vasectomy, fearing further betrayal. Now, Melissa barely speaks to me, mentioning divorce, and I don’t blame her for feeling distrusted.
I’m torn: should I confess about the vasectomy, risking more pain, or let her believe I simply doubted her loyalty? Either way, our trust is fractured, and with a baby coming, I’m terrified of losing her and unsure about our future.
I need advice. Is honesty about the vasectomy too late, or the only way to salvage our marriage? What should I do?
