I was raised by my mom after my dad walked out when I was five. He started a new family, never paid child support, and never called—not on birthdays, not on holidays. I grew up without him and eventually built a life without needing him.
Now, years later, his wife called to say my father is very sick and needs a kidney transplant. She told me I’m the best match and begged me to get tested because no one else in his family is compatible.
I said no.
I don’t feel obligated to risk my health for a man who chose to be absent my entire life. He made his choices long ago.
Since then, his family has flooded me with messages, calling me selfish and heartless, saying I should “be the bigger person.” Even my mom thinks I should consider it so I won’t feel guilty if he dies.
But I don’t feel guilty. I feel like he’s facing the consequences of his choices.
Still, part of me wonders—am I being too harsh?
